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Man Pants: Resources about Fathering

Role Three: Christian Men Who Are Fathers

Session Five: Resources about Fathering
Discussed at Men to Men, March 11

Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. (Deuteronomy 6:4–7, ESV)

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4, ESV)

Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. (Colossians 3:21, ESV)

Recommended Resources

 The following recommendations are not the only good resources on the subject but are those that the elders found to be helpful in their own growth as Christian fathers.


  • Deuteronomy 6:4-7; Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21. Remember, God’s Word 
will not return void.
  • “Fathers Who Give Hope” by John Piper (sermon audio and notes)
  • “Adversarial Fathers” by Doug Wilson (article) Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp (Amazon)



  • “When You Need, Give” by Rachel Jankovic (article)
  • Loving the Little Years by Rachel Jankovic (Amazon)
  • “Establishing Culture in the Home” by Doug Wilson (video clip)
  • The Rise and Fall of the American Teenager by Thomas Hine (Amazon)
  • The Feminization of American Culture by Ann Douglas (Amazon)

[S]ons, who are more generously and candidly treated by their fathers, do not hesitate to offer them incomplete and half-done and even defective works, trusting that their obedience and readiness will be approved by our most merciful Father, however small, rude, and imperfect these may be. (John Calvin, Institutes of the Christian Religion, 3.19.5)

We don’t get to choose if our kids will imitate us as fathers but we do have opportunity to choose what kind of father our kids will see.