Role Two: Christian Men Who Are Husbands – Faithful Headship
Session Three: Christian Husbands Who Serve/Sacrifice
Discussed at Men to Men, February 11
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. (Ephesians 5:25–28, ESV)
Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane – Matthew 26:39
Phil 2:1-8 – The humility of Christ. Christ did not grasp for His rightful place as God but instead took on the form of a servant.
Matthew 20:28 – Jesus did not come to be served but to serve and give his live as a ransom for many
In a ham and egg breakfast pigs make sacrifices chickens make contributions. Christ-like sacrifice involves death.
Jesus gave Himself up. He did not wait until it was forced upon Him.
Most husbands wait until the need for sacrifice is forced upon them. Husbands usually react when there is a problem rather than pro-act before problems arise.
Jesus gave Himself up so that he might accomplish a higher purpose – the purification of His bride, the Church.
Principle: Death in us produces life in others – 2 Corinthians 2:7-12
Husbands don’t sacrifice for the sake of sacrifice. They sacrifice for the sake of bringing life to their wives and children. A husband is especially responsible to pursue relationship, fellowship, and intimacy with his wife.
Consider Christ’s example during His trial and crucifixion. He endured much wrongdoing for the sake of achieving a higher purpose.
It produces change in us as we become more Christ-like.
It maximizes our ability to influence godly change in our wife. The first product of our serving is spiritual fruit in us.
Hope doesn’t belong with a spouse’s change but in God who can change a spouse.
For single guys, remember: there is no switch to flip on the wedding day. Begin taking on the mantle of manhood now by practiced sacrifice for others.
The following recommendations are not the only good resources on the subject but are those that the elders found most useful in their own growth in understanding and practicing Christlike sacrifice.
Sinful husbands cannot reenact a substitutionary death, but nevertheless all husbands are commanded to imitate a substitutionary death (Eph. 5:27-28). This is the single most difficult thing for selfish husbands to learn. (Doug Wilson, For a Glory and a Covering, 42)
Being married is a function of simply being a Christian. In other words, we should not expect to find a set of marital “techniques” that are unrelated to the task of living as a Christian generally. (105)